Wow - my head is REALLY in the clouds ...?
I'm dating a guy from Brazil - he's a carpentar, doesn't make any money, and doesn't care about anything other than going back to Brazil to live by the beach. I, on the other hand, am an only child from a very wealthy family. I make a lot of money in my job but I also deal with a lot of stress. Often I fantasize about running away to Brazil and just living on the beach, not caring about having a good job or making money ... Is my head in the clouds? Am I being absolutely ridiculous? My friends think I'm crazy.
Psychology - 5 Answers
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1 :
It is a little strange that you want to leave your good paying job for a broke man in Brazil, but who am i to judge. I think stranger things in my mind on a regular basis. I wouldn't recommend that you do that, because it is not fun struggling through life or "dragging the ground". Some people say that money can't buy happiness, so maybe you should marry the guy that you like. However, i would recommend that you just drop everything and move with this man. I think that you shoud move him to where you live at so that you can live in comfort and still have money. If you want to go back and take vacations in Brazil and visit his family, then that would be a not so bad idea.
2 :
go for a holiday of a month or so. See the other side of the story. You are wealthy you can offer yourself this. Do not take drastic decisions. A man who hates to work is a looser and you will find out by yourself
3 :
don't do it unless you love him. it sounds like a fling and they aren't forever.
4 :
When we're stressed, we'll look for anything to help us escape. Running away to Brasil sounds appealing and romantic, and no doubt, you'll like have a good time -- for a while. But think in terms of your life over the long term. He may or may not be in your life very long. What if you get pregnant? Then what? What foundation are you laying for the rest of your life? You will at some point need to get your own life going. Apparently your family wealth doesn't immune you from stress. And anywhere you go, you'll experience stress, whether in the US or in Brasil. Will you going to run away again? Or will you learn to handle it in creating your own life? Of course, no one can make a life decision for you.
5 :
It depends on what you want in life. If you would be happy being with a man you love, living by the beach, and having not much else, then perhaps that is what you need. If you have been dating him for a while, and really think he is a good guy, then why not go to Brazil for a vacation, and try living like he does for a week or so? A friend of mine went to Brazil recently (she is a Brazilian-American), it is a beautiful place, but don't forget there is a lot of crime in the cities. If you like Brazil, you could study Portuguese, and try to get a job down there. You will have to think long and hard about your goals, what you want in life. Good luck!
