Should you marry the one you love, or a doctor?
Be the most honest you can be. RIght now i've been going out with my bf for 8 months. He's been perfect to me and Ive been to him. We both never had cheating problems ...actually we never had problems. maybe a little jealousy which came more from my part. I know his family when he doesnt know mine (private reasons). He says he loves and he does show it. everyone can tell i guess. thats what my friends say. His friends call me Mrs.X (Letter of his last name) However, we are both 20 and in college. he's a little irresponsible. he likes to party a lot and enjoying the years in college. thats cool too i guess. BUt im the type of girlt that always wanted to get married early in life. have kids early in life too. Since i started working at this hospital i've noticed one of the doctors began to "check me out". he is a little older but he's a very nice guy. every one loves him at the hospital. I also come form a poor family. Im an immigrant from Brazil and live here busting my butt with my family and going to school. I have this mindset that im going to finish school and make money. I just have that goal...the life that my mom had growing up...i am not giving that to my kids. So this doctor asked me out to dinner. Hes been flirting with me also. not a big deal. What should i do?
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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A man should always marry the woman he loves. A woman will always marry the money she loves.
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Don't be in too much of a rush to start your family. My wife and I were married when we were 22 and started having kids at 26. Those 4 years together with just the two of use were great and really laid a solid foundation for our marriage. I would say give your college guy a chance to mature if you really love him. Don't cheat on him. The playboy doctor will still be there if the frat boy blows it.
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A 20 year old college guy may not want to get married for several years yet. If you are even considering dating another man, then I don't know how in love you truly are with Mr. x. Just saying... But a word of caution... an older doctor may want to simply have some fun with a younger girl. A dinner date isn't a proposal, so watch yourself. Get to know him, his family and his goals. I've been played by older men who like to go out with young girls. Is he divorced? Does he have a rep? Coming from where you do, I'm sure you've got smarts. Just be careful with an older dr!
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My suggestion is to wait until YOU can give that life to your children before you even think about having them. The divorce rate is extremely high and if you get married whether it is for love or money it still can end badly. Finish college first! Have fun but don't start a family until you are sure you can provide the kind of life you want them to have by yourself. If you marry and the guys got money - that's great. But stuff happens and people can change and have changes of heart. As for the doctor and the college boy, that is up to you. It does sound like you aren't as in to him(boyfriend) as he is to you just by your question. If you are just keeping him around because he treats you well and nobody better has come along yet maybe you should let him go so he can find someone that see's him in their future.
