One day left, I need to make up my decision tonight!?
ok so I was dating this guy who had his heart broken so much by a 31 year old attorney woman who cheated on him with a 60 year old rich wacko from brazil. This guy is 29 years old and I am 23. I was working for him and realized I was hired mainly to help him with his issues, like a distraction or something. I felt so much butterflies for this guy and one I gave my two week notice and decided to quit because I felt used. I felt he wanted me to be around the picture to make it look like he was with someone since his ex filed against him for so much crap but mainly it was to take his money. I haven't seen him in nearly two weeks because I have been working in a new project since I am an entrepreneur. He wants to see me to talk to me and I am so hurt. I finally said ok to tmrw dinner. I have no idea what he wants to talk to me about but it hurts so bad inside that I don't even want to hear what he has to say. He made me feel as if I was lying to him all the time and I was so honest with him, I would even clean his office every week because I am a perfectionist. I felt I was so good and I was crushed. I know he's not a bad person and perhaps he realized he has done wrong but I really feel hurt and I don't think I want to go thru more of it. Should I see him tomorrow or just call it final. It felt so good to be in his arms but now I am hurt and I don't want to be hurting even more. Part of me wants to but the other part of me doesn't. Please give your honest opinion, I need to make up my mind tonight!
Marriage & Divorce - 3 Answers
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nothing wrong with dating him. yeah, he hurt you. but you still care about him. second chances aren't such a bad thing. of course he might just be using you to get over her. not a bad thing. he might really have feelings for you. at 23, why not take a chance.
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You really feel hurt and you don't want to go through more of it. I think you answered your own question. It sounds as if you made a wise choice when you left that situation two weeks ago. Why second guess yourself?
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I've found in life that if we usually go with our FIRST instincts we are usually rite. It's when we start to second guess ourselves we get all confused & mixed up. You didn't make your decision based on an anger issue that could confuse you after you've cooled off so to speak. You made the decision to avoid being hurt. That chance of being hurt again is still there. Therefore it's being done to protect you. I would say your decision is a valid one as you still could be taking the same chance of being hurt again which of course you do not want to do. So in this case I would stick to my first instincts & go with my decision I made to protect myself. IF you went & saw him again you would do nothing but get yourself all confused again & back where you started from. You would be doing nothing but going on your emotions instead of your intellect. (If I'm making any sense to you). Another thing I always said was to keep my "I" over my "E"...my intellect over my emotions. When we let our emotions take over we're letting our feelings rule instead of using our minds. This too would apply to your situation. So if any of this makes sense to you, I'd go with my first decision & not confuse myself. You're young, you'll meet many more men in your lifetime. Give yourself a fair chance to meet the rite one for you. Think about it & I believe you'll get your answer loud & clear...I do wish you the best, honey, & know you'll be OK...:)
