he makes me feel like the worst mother on earth!?
Im 23 and have a 2 1/2 month old baby, hes everything for me! I do everything to be a good mom, but my husband makes me feel so bad, at first he screamed at me and blames me for not producing enough breast milk, he thinks that I can do something to increase it!! yesturday was my 1st day back at work and when i got home instead of asking me how my day went he screamed at me infront of his mother, he said that it was my fault the baby cried in the afternoon because I gave him directions to feed the baby every 1:30 to 2 hrs. he thinks that everytime the baby cries he should be fed! he also said that hes the one who rules in the house that hes the man etc.. and threatened me and said he would leave to his country brazil and never come back! The other big thing is that he works in construction and makes good money and i dont make too much but he doesnt care he charges me 1/2 the rent, and I pay for health insurace for me & the baby plus daycare wich is sooo expensive, I buy his diapers etc, the only thing I dont pay for is food, and just because he pays for the food it makes him feel like he can do whatever he wants and treat me like crap! at the end of the week I only end up making like $40! Please dont be rude and leave me bad responses, I feel so depressed! and sad!
Marriage & Divorce - 20 Answers
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why did you marry that jerk off in the first place?
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Get out while you can. You're married to a prick.
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So let him go back to his country! Either that or pack up your stuff and go... this man is a piece of $hit..
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U don't need him////
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You are not a bad mother, he is a bad father. He should be able to handle his child when you are not there no matter how young the child is. Personally, he needs to change his attitude or I would leave him. How someone treats you should have nothing to do with how much money they make or how little you make. You would rather feel depressed and upset all the time, just because you don't make enough money????
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It doesn't seem like you're the worst mother on earth at all, but he does seem like one of the worst and least-supportive husbands. As a human being, his wife, and the mother of his child, he should be treating you with dignity and respect. He should be helping provide not just a home with food, but a nurturing, safe, healthy, and comfortable home. Maybe you should seek out a marriage counselor?
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I got pizzed off just reading this. Every woman here will tell you that you need to get away from this AZZHOLE! And they are right in telling you that. By the way, you are a great mom! And I can see you care very much for your child's needs. Never let a man take away your power.
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You are married to a jerk,you know in your heart if you are a good mom.Don't let him make you doubt that.Do you really want to live like this the rest of your life?
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Get out. Now. Call 1-800-799-SAFE. Make sure to mention that your husband has threatened to run off with your baby permanently out of the country. You said your baby is everything for you. If you stay with this monster, you are risking everything.
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I know that this is really hard for you and I know that you probably still have feelings for him but I think he may be taken things too far. I think that a marriage should be a relationship of trust and understanding. He doesn't seem to understand a lot of things. You need to talk to him about the way you are feeling, that you aren't happy with the direction the relationship has been going and you would like to make some changes. If he won't even listen to you, then I think that you should go to your family and friends for help. Good Luck and remember that you and your baby are the most important.
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U have deribe a very abusive man who cruel and a very manipulative person i seek legal aid and get advice you also need to be careful he does not try taking ur son out of the country I think he proved he does not love you and you really be better with out him i also think he be a terrible abusive father so think things throw if you could go and stay with ur parents i do that but you need to go get advice now there also women's shelters i wish you well keep in touch ive been through this with the psychical violence as well i wish i left sooner to save the suffering of my kids
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Why in the hell would you marry an azzhole like this in the first place? You are better off without him...You would be a fool to stay with him expecting him to change....Let him go back to Brazil...In fact help him pack his chit!
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Honey I'm going through the same exact thing and you know what I did I let him leave. What's the point of keeping him around if he's going to be that way to you. I don't want my 3 year old son to learn that it's ok to treat people the way his dad treats me. It's not a good home to raise him. He left a week ago and as soon as I can I'm going to make for damn sure he pays child support. I know it's going to be hard raising my son alone, but honestly it's a lot better than staying in a house in which I was not being respected. I know I did the right thing for my son in the long run.
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Your husband is controlling, and this is wrong. There are so many things to comment on, but I'll take them one at a time. First things first. You have NO control over how must breast milk your body produces. It's not your fault if you produce way too much or not nearly enough. I'm sorry your husband doesn't understand that, and blames you for things you have no control over. Secondly, every time a baby cries it does not need to be fed. There are many reasons why a baby cries. A baby can cry because it's hungry, it needs a change, it's tired, it wants attention/to be held, acid reflux, etc. You should sit down with your husband and explain this to him, and maybe even possibly purchase a book about babies so your husband can understand them a little better -- it's not his fault, he's just uneducated on the topic. Now, the verbal abuse is definitely not okay, and you'll want to nip that in the bud immediately because that is NOT something you want your child around. Children that are in verbally abusive homes have lower self esteem and typically act out. Do you want your child growing up thinking it's okay to scream at people when they're angry? No. You want your child to have respect for his/her fellow man. The money issue is absolutely ludacris to me. Why do you and your husband not have joint finances? He shouldn't be "charging" you anything -- if my husband ever "charged" me for something I'd laugh right in his face! The two of you should have a joint bank account, and all of your paychecks should go right into that each week. Both of you need access to the family money, because that's what it is, FAMILY money. There shouldn't be a yours and mine, only ours. Your husband needs to get a grip -- even if the two of you DO decide to keep your finances separate (which I don't think is a good idea) then there is no way you should be paying half of the bills when he makes that much more than you. You need to divide things equally based on the amount of income you have, not just strictly 50/50. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with your husband. He needs to have a major attitude change and it needs to happen immediately. If he's going to continue to abuse you in such a way, I would suggest leaving him and raising the baby on your own. Your child would be better off in a one-parent household than a 2 parent household with this much drama and stress. Good luck. And you're not a bad mother, just remember that.
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Your husband has issues!! Let him take his as s back to Brazil and beg him not to come back, because you deserve better. Clearly he has no respect for you and treats you like a roommate. You only have one child. You can make it! I promise you can. There are too many resources out there for single moms to survive. Let the state help you until you can get on your feet. They will even pay for daycare. I would cuss his as s out and head for the door. That is just ridiculous and the baby needs a more stable environment. You don't need this extra stress as a mother.
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wow what a jerk no offense. but I wouldn't tolerate that. Why is he screaming about a baby that doesn't know any better?? I feel bad for you because that has to be a hard life to live everyday with someone who is power hungry (thats what it sounds like at least from what you said about him saying that hes the man and the one who rules the house). If I were you I would either try and work it out with him and let him know that either things go a certain way or you're leaving. I know it sounds scary to leave but do you honestly want you or your child living with him in that type of environment?? I hope everything works out well for you :)
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*HUGS!!* Having a new baby is hard enough, and you don't need to be abused. How he's treating you isn't right. If you ever feel like you or your baby is in danger, look in the phone book, and find the phone number for domestic violence help, or call the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. There are resources available to help you! If you feel you're in immediate danger, grab your baby, run to a safe place and call 911! If you're having breast feeding/milk production problems, get in touch with your local La Leche League, kellymom.com, or google galactagogues. There are many things you can do to help your milk production. Eat some oatmeal, it really helps! You don't need to be abused, and your baby deserves a happy loving home, and a happy mom. :)
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It really dosent sound like your very happy with him you need to concider what is best for you because if you dont have anything left inside to give yourself then how are you going to give your child happiness...Think about that....
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Listen honey..I feel bad for you. I really do. But common! I think you know what you need to do since you have already rationalized the fact that you don't make much money and things would be tough if you left. Leave him. He will not change! Go to your local court house and see if you qualify for assistance. Create an application for child support and get the hell out. Go to friends, go to family...do what you can. Honestly, any man that can scream at his wife for nto producing enough milk is NOT a man.
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u sound like a great mum ur husband sounds like a jerk.. if u can coke without him leave... if you can't then gget some support... good luck x hope i helped x
Friday, June 28, 2013
Friday, June 14, 2013
Gap Year: Where can i make my plan come to real life?
Gap Year: Where can i make my plan come to real life?
I am planning to take gap yer, and i am planning to travel around the world, well, only some countries but also do real physical work in those countries (only part time job). Okay, i am confusing myself, i would like to go to Tibet (to visit Himalaya mountain), going across Atlantic ocean to Brazil and then, explore Amazon river(if it possible camping in the forest). In those various countries where i am going to start my adventure, i would like to have part time physical work to earn money for living. But i don;t know how to start planning my wild ideas. Can anyone give any suggestion to where i should look for advice?
Other - Society & Culture - 1 Answers
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Well, let's see: 1) Tibet has problems with poverty and unemployment, so I doubt that you could get a part-time job there unless you are fluent in Chinese, which is the main language used there. 2) Brazil also has similar problems with the added bonus of a pretty high violent crime rate in the major cities. Again, to get employed, you would have to be pretty fluent in Spanish. 3) Still in South America, regarding the Amazon river, well, crime is pretty bad there too (after all, it's the main source of cocaine). Unemployment is about the same there as it is in the USA at around 10%. ------------------- Overall, I really don't think your chances of getting employment in any of those places are very good. You would probably need all kinds of permits and work visas too.
I am planning to take gap yer, and i am planning to travel around the world, well, only some countries but also do real physical work in those countries (only part time job). Okay, i am confusing myself, i would like to go to Tibet (to visit Himalaya mountain), going across Atlantic ocean to Brazil and then, explore Amazon river(if it possible camping in the forest). In those various countries where i am going to start my adventure, i would like to have part time physical work to earn money for living. But i don;t know how to start planning my wild ideas. Can anyone give any suggestion to where i should look for advice?
Other - Society & Culture - 1 Answers
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Well, let's see: 1) Tibet has problems with poverty and unemployment, so I doubt that you could get a part-time job there unless you are fluent in Chinese, which is the main language used there. 2) Brazil also has similar problems with the added bonus of a pretty high violent crime rate in the major cities. Again, to get employed, you would have to be pretty fluent in Spanish. 3) Still in South America, regarding the Amazon river, well, crime is pretty bad there too (after all, it's the main source of cocaine). Unemployment is about the same there as it is in the USA at around 10%. ------------------- Overall, I really don't think your chances of getting employment in any of those places are very good. You would probably need all kinds of permits and work visas too.
Friday, June 7, 2013
Is It Right To Make Someone Homeless?
Is It Right To Make Someone Homeless?
My ex husband wife bought a complex in our city which is 4hour drive from their city and since we don’t have a place to stay and we got kicked out of our trailer me and my daughter, my ex made his wife to let us live in one of the apartment and signed contract to pay her $600. I supposed be paying her for rent $600 a month, but I couldn’t so I have not paid her for a year now. I filled my taxes 2 months ago and my return was 3k and the IRS withhold it and gave it to her and now my job is withholding my wages till I pay her off. How did she do that I didn’t go to court I know she has one of the best lawyers. What can I do legally? She gave me 30 days notice about 30days ago and I just found out today she sold the complex for double with she paid for. I don’t have money to pay the new owner and my ex gives me $500 for child support. Please help me what should I do, or me and my 13 year old daughter will end up on the streets. I called my ex and told him that his wife sold the complex and he said he didn’t know she did and said it is my fault for not paying her. Why is she doing this to us? when she has 4 rental homes and has a huge home which is paid off not to mention the rental homes they are all paid off too. This forgin bitch, came to USA when she was 5 went to college and got good job and I’m real American native Indian and I have not job. She is from Brazil and has thick accent but thinks she is smarter than me. Is true I dropped out school at 8th grade but I don’t sound idiot when I speak English. Tell me where is the justice here?
Marriage & Divorce - 7 Answers
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no, everyone had a right to a home(even if it's jail). Send them to a shelter.
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Morally it is not right to make someone homeless however, people are cold and cruel and look only at the bottom line ( money ).
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So you feel you should get a place to stay for free because you have a child? Get real, if you couldn't afford a place, then maybe you should have filed for section 8. She's obviously not a sucker you can take advantage of.
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ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!! Stop blaming other people for problems you are causing!!! Your rent was $600 a month, your ex gives $500 a month and you have a job!!!! WHEN YOU CHOOSE NOT TO PAY, YOU CHOOSE TO BE HOMELESS!!! Your ex gave you a place to stay and you screwed him!!! Go to a homeless shelter and let you ex take care of your daughter because your not doing a good job!!!
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If you are really are Native as you claim, stop posting this rant to fuel the ignorant minded people who will think we are all like you. If you are just a troll, you really need to get your facts straight and look at your own before pointing fingers. Either way, race has nothing to do with it. Edit: Edit: Wow. So are you 25 or 31, or 35? And exactly how many times have you been married? I see from your other questions, you also have a 5 year old and a 19 year old named Dorothy- and we can't forget the 16 year old stepdaughter, and are you currently married to a man who constantly talks about his ex, but you think he might be gay- is he also the husband who is dead? Where was he when you weren't paying your rent??? And why do you also have a WIFE who doesn't want your teenage daughter living with you? This is either some serious Springer **** or just a troll with too much time on their hands who can't keep their story straight. I'm opting for the latter.
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troll. your questoins / rants are proof. you claim conflicting stories and even change gender a couple times. give it up
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You can only make yourself homeless. You made your bed... now you lie in it. Why are you trying to take advantage of someone you know and not paying your rent? Knowing them personally makes what you are doing /worse/ not "better".
My ex husband wife bought a complex in our city which is 4hour drive from their city and since we don’t have a place to stay and we got kicked out of our trailer me and my daughter, my ex made his wife to let us live in one of the apartment and signed contract to pay her $600. I supposed be paying her for rent $600 a month, but I couldn’t so I have not paid her for a year now. I filled my taxes 2 months ago and my return was 3k and the IRS withhold it and gave it to her and now my job is withholding my wages till I pay her off. How did she do that I didn’t go to court I know she has one of the best lawyers. What can I do legally? She gave me 30 days notice about 30days ago and I just found out today she sold the complex for double with she paid for. I don’t have money to pay the new owner and my ex gives me $500 for child support. Please help me what should I do, or me and my 13 year old daughter will end up on the streets. I called my ex and told him that his wife sold the complex and he said he didn’t know she did and said it is my fault for not paying her. Why is she doing this to us? when she has 4 rental homes and has a huge home which is paid off not to mention the rental homes they are all paid off too. This forgin bitch, came to USA when she was 5 went to college and got good job and I’m real American native Indian and I have not job. She is from Brazil and has thick accent but thinks she is smarter than me. Is true I dropped out school at 8th grade but I don’t sound idiot when I speak English. Tell me where is the justice here?
Marriage & Divorce - 7 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
no, everyone had a right to a home(even if it's jail). Send them to a shelter.
2 :
Morally it is not right to make someone homeless however, people are cold and cruel and look only at the bottom line ( money ).
3 :
So you feel you should get a place to stay for free because you have a child? Get real, if you couldn't afford a place, then maybe you should have filed for section 8. She's obviously not a sucker you can take advantage of.
4 :
ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!! Stop blaming other people for problems you are causing!!! Your rent was $600 a month, your ex gives $500 a month and you have a job!!!! WHEN YOU CHOOSE NOT TO PAY, YOU CHOOSE TO BE HOMELESS!!! Your ex gave you a place to stay and you screwed him!!! Go to a homeless shelter and let you ex take care of your daughter because your not doing a good job!!!
5 :
If you are really are Native as you claim, stop posting this rant to fuel the ignorant minded people who will think we are all like you. If you are just a troll, you really need to get your facts straight and look at your own before pointing fingers. Either way, race has nothing to do with it. Edit: Edit: Wow. So are you 25 or 31, or 35? And exactly how many times have you been married? I see from your other questions, you also have a 5 year old and a 19 year old named Dorothy- and we can't forget the 16 year old stepdaughter, and are you currently married to a man who constantly talks about his ex, but you think he might be gay- is he also the husband who is dead? Where was he when you weren't paying your rent??? And why do you also have a WIFE who doesn't want your teenage daughter living with you? This is either some serious Springer **** or just a troll with too much time on their hands who can't keep their story straight. I'm opting for the latter.
6 :
troll. your questoins / rants are proof. you claim conflicting stories and even change gender a couple times. give it up
7 :
You can only make yourself homeless. You made your bed... now you lie in it. Why are you trying to take advantage of someone you know and not paying your rent? Knowing them personally makes what you are doing /worse/ not "better".
Saturday, June 1, 2013
Why does the US borrow money from China, Saudi Arabia, and others to pay for the Bush Tax Cuts?
Why does the US borrow money from China, Saudi Arabia, and others to pay for the Bush Tax Cuts?
This burden is later passed to all citizens in a form of taxes to pay the interest of the loan and the principal. Does it make sense to you? Leading Foreign owners of US Treasury Securities (July 2010) Nation/Territory billions of dollars percentage People's Republic of China (mainland) 846.7 20.8% of USA Debt Japan 821.0 20.2% of USA Debt United Kingdom 374.3 9.2% of USA Debt Oil exporters1 223.8 5.5% of USA Debt Caribbean Banking Centers2 150.7 3.7% of USA Debt Brazil 162.2 4.0% of USA Debt Hong Kong (Special Administrative Region) 135.2 3.3% of USA Debt Russia 130.9 3.2% of USA Debt Republic of China (Taiwan) 130.5 3.2% of USA Debt Grand Total 4065.8 100 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_public_debt
Politics - 5 Answers
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Income tax receipts SKY-ROCKETED -- due to expanding economy -- after Bush's tax-cuts went in effect... Too bad, Bush and Republican-owned Legislature failed to keep SPENDING restrained :-(
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You have confused yourself. Over spending by Congress has been going on for 70 years. Lowered tax rates have generated more in total tax dollars. The problem is too much spending by the federal government. Repeat that sentence out loud for 100 time is a row. It may sink in.
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Beautiful way to totally confuse a question. Your numbers only refer to foreign debt. The majority of treasury bonds are held in the US. US treasury bonds are the most secure investment in the world. Other countries don't buy them to do us a favor. They buy them because they're a better investment than their own bonds.
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There are know tax cuts to pay for. Peace
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The government has to borrow money to feed its spending addiction. It has this addiction because spending appeases voters in the short-term. Unfortunately, tightening the belt is always put off "just a few more years". Such lack of long-term (or even medium-term) sight leads to disaster.
This burden is later passed to all citizens in a form of taxes to pay the interest of the loan and the principal. Does it make sense to you? Leading Foreign owners of US Treasury Securities (July 2010) Nation/Territory billions of dollars percentage People's Republic of China (mainland) 846.7 20.8% of USA Debt Japan 821.0 20.2% of USA Debt United Kingdom 374.3 9.2% of USA Debt Oil exporters1 223.8 5.5% of USA Debt Caribbean Banking Centers2 150.7 3.7% of USA Debt Brazil 162.2 4.0% of USA Debt Hong Kong (Special Administrative Region) 135.2 3.3% of USA Debt Russia 130.9 3.2% of USA Debt Republic of China (Taiwan) 130.5 3.2% of USA Debt Grand Total 4065.8 100 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_public_debt
Politics - 5 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Income tax receipts SKY-ROCKETED -- due to expanding economy -- after Bush's tax-cuts went in effect... Too bad, Bush and Republican-owned Legislature failed to keep SPENDING restrained :-(
2 :
You have confused yourself. Over spending by Congress has been going on for 70 years. Lowered tax rates have generated more in total tax dollars. The problem is too much spending by the federal government. Repeat that sentence out loud for 100 time is a row. It may sink in.
3 :
Beautiful way to totally confuse a question. Your numbers only refer to foreign debt. The majority of treasury bonds are held in the US. US treasury bonds are the most secure investment in the world. Other countries don't buy them to do us a favor. They buy them because they're a better investment than their own bonds.
4 :
There are know tax cuts to pay for. Peace
5 :
The government has to borrow money to feed its spending addiction. It has this addiction because spending appeases voters in the short-term. Unfortunately, tightening the belt is always put off "just a few more years". Such lack of long-term (or even medium-term) sight leads to disaster.
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