Trying to make a decision about Moving my family to Brazil, Please Help?
Hi, I am looking for some advise:) I feel like I am being pushed and pulled in two different directions and I cant make a solid desiosion and I feel like pulling my hair out! I have been with my Brazilian husband for 8 years now, we have a 5 year old son and 1 year old twins. Our current situation isn’t the greatest, we live on the third floor in a two bedroom apartment, it’s a large apartment but non the less with the twins getting bigger and bigger we have outgrown it. My husband owns a pizza shop and works about 80 hours a week, thus he is only here one day a week if that. With the economy business is slow and I am a SAHM so I have begun selling my crafts and such online and out of my house (www.littlelillylove.com) this has brought in money for me and the kids to play around with, so that we can get out of the house. Life is stressful feeling like a single parent a lot of the time, so my husband has been really pushing us towards moving down to Brazil. There we will be able to buy our own home, have many trustable babysitters (7 sister in-laws) and if needed we could have someone come in and help around the house as my husband already owns a taxi company down there and has a lot in stocks. He also would like me in the future to open a store selling all my children’s accessories after we get on our feet (as a good percent of my sales now in the U.S. is within the brazilian community) I have been to Brazil three times and really do enjoy it but the thought of living there scares me. My mom is here and she is a huge part of our lives, she is very close to the kids and is a huge financial help when it comes to the three kids. Everytime the discussion comes up about us moving she freaks out and manages to completely talk me out of it. My friends are all here but we are all busy living our own lives and the main communication with all of us is face book and online so they are supportive. Also my husband is as cheap as cheap can get, here we work around it, I have my own time and my car and if I want a pair of shoes or an outfit for the kids I don’t fight with him about it I just go get it. In Brazil at least for a while he will be in complete control as I am still learning the language. Maybe I’m over analyzing everything but I’m just so nervous. I know I’m grown, 27 in July and need to live my life with my family and do what’s best but I hate that my mom will be hurting and then if it doesn’t work were will we be, coming back here with nothing and three kids…so scary… Please can anybody offer me any advice as an outsider? Thank you we stayed there for a few months back 4 years ago and it had its pro's and con's but I always knew I was coming back and only had one child. And I say in complete control only because when we were there before it was a fight when I wanted to buy a shirt.... He says that it was like that back then because we had an overwhelming amount of bills (because I had surgery down there when we were there so we were paying that off)
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WHAT HARM DO I MAKE TO YOU?
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take your mom with you
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I would say to go for it! Life is nothing if you dont take risks right?? Reassure your mother by telling her you will visit often and call her and such. Also you can always shop online if you want to be in control.
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How completely do you trust your husband? How happy is your marriage? Sounds like it would be good for you financially and help you get some sanity in your life. But in a different country laws can be very strange. If your husband left you or vice versa are there any laws saying what would happen to the children? Maybe I have watched too many lifetime movies, but I would never take a chance on losing my child. Please answer my question. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhFAbQft4po2E9PTfNW9HmXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100602104448AAKlYbC
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The words "in complete control" sends a red flag up. Then too, the entire World is having problems. I personally know some person that did something similar--10 days later they were back were they started---with nothing except some clothes and a few kitchen utensils. Everything else was gone.
